On July 16, 2015, my friend, Doug Grady which
is the president of High Achievers published a blog that has a powerfully true
It’s been a few days
since I have shaved. Many would say I’m growing a beard. But truth is, I’m not
doing anything. The beard is growing itself. I actually have to do something to
prevent it from growing. Similarly, in life, we do things to keep ourselves from
growing personally, professionally, mentally and spiritually.
5 Growth Stopping
S– surround yourself with people who make you feel better about
playing small and not growing. Who are the five people you spend the most time
with? Do they challenge and inspire you? Do they support your growth or help
keep you stuck?
H– hold on to the past. You dwell on past mistakes, regrets,
failures and tragedies. You tell yourself I’ve always been this way, it will
always be this way, there’s no sense in even trying. Is it Time to Let Go?
“The past does not equal the future unless you
live there.” –Tony Robbins
A– anesthetize. This literally means to deprive
of feeling or awareness. You engage in activities to avoid the pain of
growth. Drugs, alcohol and other forms of self-medication fall into this
category. On about day 4 or 5 my beard starts to itch. It can be extremely
irritating. If I can’t make it through this uncomfortable period the beard will
never reach maturity. What are you doing to remain comfortable?
V– vilify people and circumstances. You look outside
yourself and blame others or “life” for where you are, who you are, and your
experience of the world.
E– escape. Social media, thrill seeking, television,
trivial pursuits and other endless distractions will inevitably delay or deny
Take inventory. Which of the above is your “go-to”? Are
there others? A big part of your growth is being brutally honest with yourself
about what you do to stop it.
Are you uncomfortable as
you read this? That means it’s
working. You now have a choice. Engage in one of your favorite growth stopping
activities or face the strange and get to growing. Choose powerfully.
I would like to talk about the S of Doug's SHAVE acronym. In order to grow, surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. If the people closely associated with you always want to have a pity party and serve pout soup, choose some other friends.
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